The Ultimate Guide to Sex after Fifty: How to Maintain – or Regain – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life by Joan Price
Release Date: December 22, 2014
Publisher: Cleis Press
Source: book provided by publisher for review
In this definitive guide to great senior sex, Joan Price will help you deepen your pleasure for a lifetime. The myth that aging bodies have an expiration date when it comes to sex is just plain wrong. Sex may change with the challenges of aging, but for every problem, there is a solution. The Ultimate Guide to Sex after Fifty offers clear and reliable information, helpful tips and thoughtful interviews that disclose what works for real people—couples, singles and the widowed, across all orientations. Whether you currently have a vibrant sex life or an unfulfilling one that you’d like to improve, this book will be a real resource for you now and through the years ahead.
Everything you need to know about:
- Long-term relationships
- Medical challenges
- Loss of libido
- Dating later in life
- Elusive orgasms
- Sex toys
- Loss of intimacy
- Friends with benefits
Review: ‘If you’re interested in sex with intimacy, there isn’t a seventeen-year-old alive who can keep up with a healthy sixty-year-old!‘ (David Scnarch, PhD). My sex life rebooted when I moved to Hawaii at the age of 51. Some of my lovers have been younger, some older. I found the older men have all the energy and vigor of the younger men – plus they have the experience and skills which they definitely know how to use!
I loved that the book covers issues for both men and women. While Price doesn’t go into heavy detail on each item, there is enough information to let you know you’re not alone – others suffer from the same maladies and fears. There is also a thick list of reference books and articles, organized by subject, if you need more information.
I liked the way Price suggests to try new things but only if you want. She doesn’t say you absolutely must do something in order to be happy – she leaves it up to you to choose which direction to veer in and how far you want to go. She also talks about (taboo) alternative lifestyles (polyamory, swinging, BDSM, etc.) but she only discusses the positives, she doesn’t give any negative feedback. I found this a little disheartening as it gives a rosy picture that will not work for everyone.
As far as us single over-50’s go, the book seems geared to those who are social butterflies and have no problems talking to people we don’t know. There are a lot of suggestions in the vein of making the first move, start conversations with people you’d like to meet and attend social events alone. I’m just not outgoing enough to do those things. She does, however, give a lot of positive input on how to create a dating profile that will attract the kind of person you’re looking for.
There are a lot of positives about this book that make it worth having on the shelf. Even if you don’t need it now, I can see that it would come in handy at some point when a question comes up in the future. This book is not just about ‘having sex’ when you’re over 50. It’s about enjoying yourself (whether involved with someone or single) and working around such common obstacles such as erectile dysfunction, hip replacements, side effects of medication or loss of your partner and such uncommon obstacles as realizing you have become interested the same sex.
Favorite Quote: It’s never too late to rediscover – or discover, for the first time – how to live passionately, authentically, and fully.